The initial purpose of this blog has been to provide information about toxic abuse recovery forums, as well as a platform where former members can share their experiences. Whilst some recovery forums may well be genuinely helpful, especially when run by professionals, others are the playgrounds of arrogant types with many personality issues of their own.
Through skilled marketing campaigns, the teams behind them claim to offer unconditional support to people who believe they are targeted by sociopaths, psychopaths or narcissists. Besides offering a plethora of self-authored guides on spotting the above-mentioned and dealing with them, they lure thousands at their most vulnerable to pour out their intimate stories, to then behave in an immature, utterly irresponsible way towards them.
Every day, unsuspecting people going through a difficult time join such groups, only to have their information endangered, to be banned on a whim (while admins and moderators, publicly or privately, mock their traumas), labelled disruptive (or even disordered) and even targeted with ad hominem attacks.
Whilst online interactions can be stopped and forgotten, the impact on people’s real lives can be substantial, if they become trapped in the alternate reality created by such groups. The certainty they claim to provide is mere speculation and the advice they give is a one-size-fits all, regardless of every situation being unique.
My intention is not to attack any administrators, moderators or members on a personal level, but rather to describe their behaviour strictly in that context and the impact they can have on people who give them their trust. The atmosphere on these sites is very similar, from what former members describe – it revolves around paranoia, clique cohesion and the overall inner dynamics of a cult, especially when dealing with “outsiders”.
Also, my intention is not to stalk these establishments over months or years, as obsessed individuals would do *; however, things need to be said loud and clear; there needs to be a space for this particular type of experience. I have not found another one so far.
Hopefully it will have decent traffic and will be encountered by those who are unsure about registering, to give them an idea of how these communities really operate. Unfortunately, most people only research them after an unsavoury experience, while they take them at face value when they register.
*That didn’t really work out as planned, but still, it’s good to see that more and more people take an interest in this phenomenon.
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